They are beautiful, and in love, nothing comes out... Why?
A beautiful woman is inevitably happy in love because she's beautiful! That's the way many and many (not all, not all) people think!) beautiful women, time after time stumbling into the inexplicable - they are beautiful, but nothing comes out in love.
Okay, if she were a simpleton, then everything could be easily explained by her appearance flaws. There's no flaw! Why then "no luck in love."? How's that??
Well, let me explain.
I always say - relationships are valued for being safe and nourishing.
The Little Academic Dictionary of the Russian Language will quickly tell you what I mean.
Safety is "the situation in which someone-, something-. is not threatened.".
And a nurturing environment is "an environment conducive to consolidation, development of what-., Creating the ground for sth."
Relationships are good when people in them don't feel threatened and can grow (in broad positive ways).
Relationships become bad when they are constantly threatened (by at least one of the spouses) and/or when there is no room for development.
So the key criterion for choosing a person for a relationship is the ability to create this very safe and nurturing environment.
Please read carefully - this is a key, that is, "the most significant in some kind of. relationship.".
Of course, smell or looks are very important in choosing a partner, but still not as important as the ability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
And here we come to the answer to the question of the unhappiness of some (not all, not all)!) beautiful women in love.
Those beautiful women who cannot meet "their love" in any way, they just do not know how to create a safe and nurturing environment in a relationship. They assume that their good looks are enough, and are seriously mistaken.
And then endlessly surprised that "this simpleton" bypassed them at the turn and "took a man. No, she did not, but with her it was much safer and more nourishing than with you. That's the secret. Of course, all of the above applies to men, too.
This is a common cause of failure in love - the inability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
not many women want to be with a man who constantly threatens to beat them and squeezes any attempt to develop (for example, by constantly telling the woman what a freak she is). Any woman wants to be as far away from such a man as possible. Not everyone makes it (for a variety of reasons), but everyone wants to.
The ways in which people (including beautiful women) kill the environment of safety and nutrition are many. There's devaluing, ignoring, rebuking, physical abuse, sex trafficking, financial abuse, lack of appreciation, lack of interest, and many, many, many, many more ways. As you know, everyone is unhappy in their own way.
Hence the question - and how to be? The way out is obvious - of course, you have to learn to create a safe and nurturing environment. I can't say it's easy, but it's possible.
First of all, any semblance of adequate group therapy is built on just that, teaching (most often covertly) people how to build that kind of relationship-safe and nurturing.
If you know how to create a safe and nurturing environment, people reach out to you, they want to be with you. And it doesn't matter what you look like. I'm serious, appearance is a subjective concept, the evaluation of it varies depending on the attitude of the person. She used to be "ugly," but now she's "nice.". Why is it so?? Attitudes have changed.
Let's summarize. Beautiful women (as well as men and all people in general) who are unhappy in love can change the situation if they learn to create a safe and nurturing environment in their relationships. That's the first thing you should learn, that's what you should learn..
Author: Pavel Zygmantovich
They are beautiful, and in love, nothing comes out... Why?
A beautiful woman is inevitably happy in love because she's beautiful! That's the way many and many (not all, not all) people think!) beautiful women, time after time stumbling into the inexplicable - they are beautiful, but nothing comes out in love.
Okay, if she were a simpleton, then everything could be easily explained by her appearance flaws. There's no flaw! Why then "no luck in love."? How's that??
Well, let me explain.
I always say - relationships are valued for being safe and nourishing.
The Little Academic Dictionary of the Russian Language will quickly tell you what I mean.
Safety is "the situation in which someone-, something-. is not threatened.".
And a nurturing environment is "an environment conducive to consolidation, development of what-., Creating the ground for sth."
Relationships are good when people in them don't feel threatened and can grow (in broad positive ways).
Relationships become bad when they are constantly threatened (by at least one of the spouses) and/or when there is no room for development.
So the key criterion for choosing a person for a relationship is the ability to create this very safe and nurturing environment.
Please read carefully - this is a key, that is, "the most significant in some kind of. relationship.".
Of course, smell or looks are very important in choosing a partner, but still not as important as the ability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
And here we come to the answer to the question of the unhappiness of some (not all, not all)!) beautiful women in love.
Those beautiful women who cannot meet "their love" in any way, they just do not know how to create a safe and nurturing environment in a relationship. They assume that their good looks are enough, and are seriously mistaken.
And then endlessly surprised that "this simpleton" bypassed them at the turn and "took a man. No, she did not, but with her it was much safer and more nourishing than with you. That's the secret. Of course, all of the above applies to men, too.
This is a common cause of failure in love - the inability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
not many women want to be with a man who constantly threatens to beat them and squeezes any attempt to develop (for example, by constantly telling the woman what a freak she is). Any woman wants to be as far away from such a man as possible. Not everyone makes it (for a variety of reasons), but everyone wants to.
The ways in which people (including beautiful women) kill the environment of safety and nutrition are many. There's devaluing, ignoring, rebuking, physical abuse, sex trafficking, financial abuse, lack of appreciation, lack of interest, and many, many, many, many more ways. As you know, everyone is unhappy in their own way.
Hence the question - and how to be? The way out is obvious - of course, you have to learn to create a safe and nurturing environment. I can't say it's easy, but it's possible.
First of all, any semblance of adequate group therapy is built on just that, teaching (most often covertly) people how to build that kind of relationship-safe and nurturing.
If you know how to create a safe and nurturing environment, people reach out to you, they want to be with you. And it doesn't matter what you look like. I'm serious, appearance is a subjective concept, the evaluation of it varies depending on the attitude of the person. She used to be "ugly," but now she's "nice.". Why is it so?? Attitudes have changed.
Let's summarize. Beautiful women (as well as men and all people in general) who are unhappy in love can change the situation if they learn to create a safe and nurturing environment in their relationships. That's the first thing you should learn, that's what you should learn..
Author: Pavel Zygmantovich